When you’re going through a divorce, it will likely impact your work life. It’s a major life change involving emotional turmoil, not to mention meetings with attorneys and your estranged spouse and possibly court dates. However, this is no time to endanger your job and your financial future. So how do you keep your work life on track while going through a divorce? Here are some tips:
Find someone at work to confide it. It’s a good idea to let your boss know what’s going on and prepare him or her for the fact that you may need a little flexibility and time off in the weeks or months to come. However, it’s good to have another work colleague whom you can talk to and who will be supportive.
Having said that, be careful about how much you tell your work colleagues. They may know that’s something’s going on, but you don’t need to share the gory details. Have a polite but succinct speech rehearsed and repeat it without emotion to respond to prying questions.
Block out divorce-related messages at work. This may mean turning off your phone and not checking your personal e-mail messages. Unless it’s an emergency, which it rarely is, there’s no reason to interrupt your day for a message or phone call that will likely upset you. If necessary, set aside some time on your lunch hour to deal with these things.Have a safe space at work to retreat. It’s only natural that there will be times when you just need to scream or swear. If you don’t have an office door to close, find a secluded space in the building or outside when you need to take some time and collect yourself.
Retreat into your work if it helps. Many people find keeping busy therapeutic. Throwing yourself into your work can help you keep your mind off of the tumult in your personal life. Just don’t take on more than you can handle — particularly if you have kids at home who need you now more than ever.
If you’re finding that your divorce is interfering with your work, talk to your family law attorney. Most will understand that communicating with their clients while they’re at work can be upsetting. Some are willing to meet with them outside of business hours or even come to their home to minimize the disruption to their lives.
Source: Lessons from the End of a Marriage, “10 Ways to Survive at Work When You’re Divorcing,” Lisa Arends, accessed June 24, 2016