The ease of no-fault divorce has changed the way the country views the whole situation. You can now find divorce coaches to help you get your life back on track, divorce cakes to share with your close associates and even divorce parties for the unhappy bride and groom to celebrate the end of their unfortunate marriage.
Since roughly 10 percent of the country’s population is divorced, it was probably only a matter of time before someone figured out how to turn the end of a marriage into an event on par with its beginning. But why, exactly, do people get divorced in the first place? The reasons are surprisingly telling:
1. Communication problems of any sort can quickly toll the bell on a marriage. It leads to more divorces than seemingly more serious problems like infidelity.
2. Couples felt pushed into the marriage by their friends and relatives and then want out. At some point, they forgot that their friends and relatives weren’t the ones saying “I do,” and that stopped them from saying, “I don’t,” when they should have.
3. Couples grow apart instead of growing together. Marriage takes effort than to sustainterest in shared activities. It’s easy to grow apart in a myriad of ways:
— Couples who had children right away may have forgotten how to be themselves when they aren’t in the role of “Mom” or “Dad.” When the kids are suddenly self-sufficient, the couple has to rediscover themselves. They aren’t always happy with what they find.
— Changes in physical intimacy levels can happen for all sorts of reasons — everything from work fatigue to hormone changes. If the changes are handled the wrong way, one or both partners may feel unwanted and unloved.
— Couples can stop sharing a future goal. When a couple first gets together, they naturally plan for the future and share their vision. If one spouse suddenly has a new vision — whether that’s retiring off the grid or traveling the world — the change in goals can change the marriage’s dynamics unpleasantly.
4. Financial disparities can kill a marriage. One spouse may use money to control the other, or both spouses may just be financially incompatible with their spending and saving habits.
If it’s time to talk about divorce, please contact an attorney as soon as possible.
Source: The Huffington Post, “The 10 Most Common Reasons People Get Divorced,” Lisa L. Payne, Kim Olver & Deborah Roth, accessed June 02, 2017
